Never failing guide on wedding planning for men
Never failing guide on wedding planning for men
When it comes to
wedding planning, the level of excitement women feel crosses charts, in
comparison to the men folk, who probably don’t even make it to the charts, I
say. Little girls dreaming about their fairy tale weddings might be a bit of a
cliché, but women kind in general love weddings, so much so that every wedding
becomes a tear jerking, over emotional event for us. And what do boys love?
Cars, video games, gadgets, sports equipment? Cliché again you say. Well, we
are about to break that stereotype. Here’s how the macho men folk can become
wonderful wedding planning partners and work alongside the would be Mrs, her
family and the extended family to put together the wedding of her dreams.
The modern
wedding scene is witnessing a sea change in how weddings are being planned in
Pakistan in the context of the groom’s involvement. Enter, the Groomzilla! Yes,
the modern grooms’ job in wedding planning has broadened significantly. They’re
now seen not just lending a little hand here and a little hand there, but
seriously getting their hands deeply tangled into what can make their wedding
most memorable for them too. However, a groom is not required to have his say
in every aspect of the wedding. Democracy is best left to the matters of the
state. Sometimes.
Read on to know
the areas a groom should and SHOULD NOT DARE to get himself involved in, while
making the wedding all about ‘them’ and not just ‘her’. Here is our never
failing guide on wedding planning for men.
Know Your Role: It’s very important for you to know what a grooms’ role in wedding
planning is all about. To begin with, do not just be the guy who becomes the
one who has the check book. Know what you’re paying for. Manage the budgets
yourself. No, we’re not saying that the brides suck at math. We’re just trying
to cue you in to know if at all you’re being charged a bomb for a centerpiece
or invites which you can actually do-it-yourself.
Decide the date
with your fiancé: As we mentioned earlier it’s
not all about her. You’ll both can sit together and discuss which date, month
or season could be best to celebrate your union. You may not have a specific
date in mind, but surely an idea of which season or month is most preferred by
both.
Help in
preparing the guest list: Know who all need to
and/or will be there at your wedding. That will largely determine your wedding
budget.
Lookout for
venues together: once you have the guest list
and budget sorted. This way you’ll have
a good idea of what kind of venue will be perfect for your reception or
pre-wedding functions. You definitely don’t want to be clueless about your
venue on your wedding day. Don’t just simply choose one online or go by
recommendations, do a recce yourself.
Show off your
creative side: by offering help in personalizing
things like the invites or wedding favors. If planning to set up a photo booth
at your pre-wedding or wedding function, display your innovative skills through
DIY backdrops and props.
Sort your Bridal
Party: The bride may have all her gal pals
helping her out with her couture, makeup and the works. You should get your
chuddy-buddies to work with you. Be it shopping, helping with vendor
arrangements or simply chilling to beat the wedding stress off, choose your
groomsmen wisely. The ones whom you can call your “YES Man/Men”, with whom
discussing the details of your wedding preps or cold feet worries won’t trap
you into having a sissy boy tag.
Offer Help in
the Fun Stuff: A way to a man’s heart is
through his stomach. Yeah, we know you’ve heard this a lot, but we just
couldn’t resist mentioning this before moving onto another job you can take on
in wedding preparations. If you’re a foodie then prepare yourself to a treat!
Raise your hand high up to let your bride know that you will be more than
delighted to decide on the food menu.
Well, if she thinks your food choices are the best and lets you go ahead
with it, you’ve just earned yourself some brownie point and a whole lot of
brownies.
If you have a
good taste in music, (which we are sure, that’s why she decided to say yes, right?)
sit to compile a playlist you would love to have at your wedding festivities.
This job in the wedding planning process is quite effortless as all you need to
do is lay around lazily browsing through song selections. Your match maybe made
in heaven, but automobiles and boys is a well-known concept of
made-for-each-other sorts. Going by this notion, we’d suggest you to decide on
what transportation you would want to book for you and your bride, as well the
bridal party.
Use Your
Mastermind with the Vendors: Undoubtedly, women
can be really good at bargaining, but men are a notch higher when it comes to
convincing with calmness. Aren’t you all great negotiators? Oh did we say too
much in the process of wanting to pawn off this one rather difficult task to you?
Vendors can be put to control when dealing with men rather than women, so use
that hidden talent and backslap your way into lowering your overall budget and
ensure smooth arrangements for your big day.
Plan your
Honeymoon: While your lady love is busy with
hundreds, perhaps a thousand other things for the D-Day (after all it’s her
biggest transition in life) you could take on the responsibility of arranging
your honeymoon. From travel arrangements-to hotel bookings-to what activities
you both would be interested in at your honeymoon, you could be hands-on with
this to make your honeymoon dreamy for you wifey-to-be.
Take Time Off: Though you may not be heavily involved in the planning, we
understand the commitment stress a man can go through. Take time off not
thinking or discussing the wedding. Go for thirst-quenchers with your boys and
simply be silly, be you. Of course, the safe kind of mad fun, if you don’t want
to be doing the rounds of jail prior to your big day.
Bridal Wear: Yes, you can give suggestions, but you cannot impose your thoughts
and ideas when it comes to what your bride will be wearing on the wedding day
or for her pre-wedding functions. The best you can do is matching your outfit
to hers to complement her choice.
Decor: Imagine you and flowers together, not a pretty picture eh? Then
stay miles away from the decor, consider it to be a deep red zone where you
wouldn’t want to plunge in. Unless of course you are a professional architect,
interior decorator or set designer. What are the odds, right?
Avoid Sarcastic
Comments: Wedding planning is a sensitive
subject for everyone involved. You may take that wedding humor in your stride,
but you don’t know if others will. A sarcastic comment, although funny from
your perspective, may not be appreciated when she is busting her shins trying
to plan this wedding so you can marry her.
Get Her A Bridal
Gift: A bride may not say it aloud (or even if
she does), she does expect a bridal gift from her hubby on the first wedding
night. Be a darling and get her the finest present you can think of. It needn’t
be anything expensive, personalized gifts are very well appreciated too.
Remember it’s the thought and not the gift that matters. Your thoughts and the
time investment in getting that gift for her will melt her heart instantly, so
do give it utmost importance.
Phew! Not a lot
for you we hope. Loved our wedding planning guide for men? Let us know at
info@shadimall.pk
Good luck
planning boys!
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